IG baddies are just bad bitches, not feminine WOMEN…big difference

 

Y’all are starting to scare me. Seriously, are we okay? Every few scrolls there is yet another modestly dressed woman projecting baseless rhetoric garnering hundreds of comments to promote healing, elevation, faith, and transition in appearance. A long way to say modesty, right? Femininity coach and “soft girl” content is very deranged and shallow with Mean Girls motifs.

Feminine Coaches are more sinister than “incel” narratives and an extremely alarming equivalent to “alpha” male centered marketing. I’m beginning to believe my algorithm isn’t responding to my ‘not interested’ selection. Where did this army of “submissive”, dogmatic, and feminine women come from? Much like manifestation coaches, the uptick of viral communities of men and women that provide a safe space for dangerous rhetoric has surpassed levels of tolerance.

Currently, it is possible to go from a struggling artist to viral sensation creating a livable wage and create a comfortable living. With this knowledge, everybody has become so creative. Social media has introduced us to socialites, beauty influencers, and product critics. We’ve also been placed in the crosshairs of scammers, con artists, and intellectual property poachers.

Accompanied by an ebook for purchase, these women posture themselves healed from the lifestyle of vanity, sensuality, pleasure, and selfishness. Exactly what is the problem with being a pretty woman online? The IG Baddie is a social media niche based on girls or feminine presenting people that confidently post in a sensual or provocative manner. These women practice a form of exhibitionist expression that attract the attention of millions of followers and triple in virality.

Many personalities like the Twerk Team, Wayda, and India Love have benefitted from beauty or dancing online despite criticism. Pole dancing is one of the most popular forms of fitness training. Women worldwide are investing their money at a studio to recreate their favorite scene from “P Valley” or Instagram. I guess because it’s the rap music and a curvy body, it must be sex work targeting male viewership once it posted online.

Feminine coaches all sound alike. Hashtags like soft power, feminine, high value mentality, and high maintenance can imply sisterhood, unity, and positivity. When their scripted jargon regurgitates pillars of white supremacy, Euro centric ideology, dogmatic religious practices, and misogyny.

This niche is saturated with rising micro influencers with rotating rage farming topics like anti-blackness, fatphobia, or slut shaming. These women have perpetuated the stereotype that baddies do not represent femininity. The reality is that femininity is gender affirming to all who subscribe to it. Baddies are described as a low-brow lifestyle with unregulated sexual behavior, hyper-sexual attire, and other ill-informed decisions with the sole purpose of attention seeking validation due to lack of family support, love, or respect for self.

Femininity isn’t exclusive to a group of individuals, however this “pink pill” content (similar and/or related to “red pill” incel content) is spreading across social networks perpetuating beliefs even more dangerous to the public considering the current political climate. It is unsafe to question and push for the restriction of women’s bodies when reproductive rights are in the hands of a billionaire immigrant and a president with an irresponsible number of children.

Pink pill content is Sherri Shepard on a daytime television program sharing unprovoked opinions about a cup less gown worn by a Grammy award winning rapper and making it synonymous to being distastefully nude at a public event. The “advice” is never about self-love, making wiser choices, or being a role model, it is about supporting the patriarchy, misogyny, and control. Our peers are becoming the adults they detested growing up. Hey, it MUST be the money.

Leadership is a character trait in practice not an internet niche. Not every face with neutral-toned makeup with a few fortunate years of experience and capable of speaking under 180 seconds should be heard. The influence has already manifested in fast fashion. The recent “rebrand” of popular e-commerce clothing platform, Pretty Little Thing has sparked multiple reactions of disdain and open whistleblowing as the company returned to its shoppers with generic lackluster imagery overtly lacking inclusivity, popularizing a fictitious classist culture.

If you desire to embrace your femininity, make certain your attire can withstand 36 normal wash cycles. The price to be better than the girl with 30mm lashes is not worth the discounted, overpriced polyester monochromatic blouse and pant combos. But by all means slay queen, slay.

Black women and black bodies that exist in marginalized communities (LGBTQ, sex workers and disabled persons) cannot benefit from a society that perpetuates dehumanizing process of third space cultural groups. Baddie culture exists; it has become a trendy and catchy term to describe the life of leisure, flamboyance, boldness, creativity, power, and openness to nonconformity centering selfishness and indulgence. Femininity encompasses self-discovery, a very sacred journey that has sustained itself through coveted ritual and subconscious awareness cleverly referred when using the phrase “the girls that get it, get it.”

Honestly speaking, many women don’t want to be better; they want to be better than somebody. If feminine coaches are not harmful, why don’t they create and boost content that advocates for breast cancer research? Why isn’t the micro influencer with a pink bow, “girl’s girl”, and “girl mom” in her bio demanding access to free reproductive healthcare items like tampons and sanitary napkins in schools?

If the true intention of traditional values is pushing more positive examples for younger women, then what is the purpose of disparaging a group of grown women? If you wanted to discontinue communing with these women, just say that. Instead, we’re forced to witness brittle confidence in a milk maid dress nitpick and antagonize strangers for engagement. It is normal and common to subscribe to a lifestyle that suits your adjusted level of comfort. The message should be about how one day a woman can eventually outgrow her previous interests. It is clear that this archetype of woman does not have the intellectual range to articulate range. Some women are just comfortable defaulting to the adult women they despised as a child.