I’ll never snitch on you daddy, never

The real estate of sisterhood is under construction, excuse the mess

Willful ignorance becomes a noose when a woman submits to the temporary comfort poor natured men provide after their mentality towards women is rationalized. What are the true intentions of male centered women, “pick-meshas” and conservative women? Are they only just unknowing agents of patriarchy and its statutes? These sentiments are dangerous to all women and sends a message to the next generation that being self-reliant and explorative is futile if you’re looking to be in a romantic relationship with any man.

The friendship pool is radioactive, sis. Women who place men at the core of their existence are lethal to other’s lives, particularly their peers. We all give the Tik Tok story time videos a side eye hearing about a woman ostracizing her bestie in front of strangers. We witness the innumerable responses of women who are dogmatic about sexual partners shaming single women who want to take Prep. Meanwhile, she thinks starting a family without long term security, commitment and fidelity several times over is more respectable than dating multiple suitors. It’s okay to not support all women, sis some of these bitches ARE dumb. All that energy for the easiest intangible resource to acquire, companionship.

How are male centered characteristics so hazardous to women? What influences this behavior? We can effortlessly place the responsibility on the man; the nuance of manipulation and deception adds context to support many women can be an unknowing enabler. So, what keeps a woman in company with an abusive man? Romantically or platonically empathetic, we all see information about a once well-respected celebrity that clashes with our principles altering how we not only view them as public figures but as law abiding citizens at the most human level.

Yung Miami ½ member of rap group, City Girls now solo act and entrepreneur

 The ride-or-die mentality is a trad wife with a lace front clashing with perspectives from wives, single mothers, and childless, older women challenging limerence and naïveté. Witnessing the voluntary act of women aligning with men who consistently make poor choices via parenting, marriage, or protection can be more visceral than reliving personal unpleasant experiences of IPV, sexual assault, and emotional trauma. Male centered women can be emotionally triggering.

Recalling the pandemic, the visibility of the diverse occupation of sex work began to rise. Leaving the shadows of taboo, particularly sugar babies or high maintenance girlfriends gained a diversified audience. It was no surprise that when Yung Miami went public with Diddy, the reactions were much more lenient and celebratory than condemning and uncomfortable. The allure of luxury goods, a comfortable lifestyle and being the center of a man’s affection ramped up in popularity amongst many impressionable demographics of women.

Yung Miami (also known as Caresha) raised eyebrows again after recent reports of her writing a letter to the court, sympathizing with former romantic associate, Sean “Diddy” Combs. Much like the lyrics on featured song, Perfect she’s keeping her lips sealed and has not acknowledged any abusive behavior or sexually immoral actions towards her or anyone related to Diddy during their time together. Reactions from fans are mixed with minimal attention at this time however it brings to light a sinister, cloaked behavior male-centered women display.

Writing a letter for an abuser, after participating in an online spat where you allude to knowing about unsavory sexual acts is all the information one needs to draw the conclusion that this behavior is male centered. If it can be theorized that the male loneliness causes men to create conflict online to garner the attention of women, male centered women do the same for the approval of men even if it goes against their own well being. In the beginning, the lavish gifts posts, a collaborated music project, couple’s trips and appearances, it seemed as if she was living a pick me’s fantasy and what every “good girl” feels she deserves if she waits for it.

Last year, accompanied by her best friend and rapper, Saucy Santana on self titled talk show, “Caresha Please” she briefly addressed her relationship with famed mogul and cleared the air. Much like the lyrics on featured song, Perfect, she kept her lips sealed and has not acknowledged any abusive behavior or sexually immoral actions towards her or anyone related to Diddy during their time together. Which brings into question the true reason why group mate, JT distanced herself from partner and former friend.

Could it just have been her open association with a man who had rumors of abuse, drug and human trafficking? Or are they two versions of the same book? Are these the consequences of male-centered ideals? Reactions from fans are mixed with minimal attention at this time however it brings to light a sinister, cloaked behavior male-centered women display. Megan Good (now Mrs. Majors) seemed to openly accept criticism and backlash regarding her romantic relationship with Jonathan Majors during the duration of his trial and public excommunication from the Black Feminine gaze. The grace of a man is an invaluable currency that can outweigh something as nonnegotiable as principles and core values. Selfishness may be the sweetest treat, but lack of moderation and discipline can find oneself imprisoned in a reality that alienates you from better judgement. I don’t know who needs to hear this but clean up your group chat. ++