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Women and the male gaze currency

Tik Tok creator (middle) now owes ex-friend (far left) over 1.75 million dollars after losing alienation of affection case in North Carolina

“She didn’t owe her any loyalty!!” I’m going to start with your mama, because she should’ve whopped yo ass sis. I don’t care where the father is, where is the morality? If any behavior women exhibit is “masculine”, harming other women intentionally is that behavior. A young wife being harassed, taunted, and stalked on social media by her ex-husband’s mistress is the cautionary tale many of us heard growing up. However, male centric behavior harms in a way that almost seems irreversible.

When women lose their lives like Kayla Hodgson, or their family is ripped apart like Akira Montague, it begs the question the cost of male approval, validation, and praise. Is getting the guy a worthy investment? With violence against women continuing to remain on a constant, it’s time we highlight the nonphysical violence and emotional abuse women face at the hands of their peers or close associates.

You can’t love and light your way into healthy relationships with women. Women heavily invested in outward sources of validation particularly from men are only capable of causing harm and confusion. She’ll use the most tender of souls as a footstool on her quest to her knight in rusty armor. A ‘man bill’ is expense with no minimum and a cost that continues to increase the more a woman willingly exchanges to maintain it. Her only reward is that man and that’s all she needs.

I recall being warned about male centered women at age 11. My grandmother, Linda, gave me a cautionary tale days before my first day in middle school. “Baby some girls, they’re not gonna like ya because of ya’ hair, ya’ clothes, ya’ body, the way ya’ eyes look. Especially when a boy she likes, likes YOU!” I was in disbelief, thinking how ridiculous it is to envy others. Being a devoted, young Baptist in the south it conflicted with my faith. Envy is a sin, only God could be jealous. Little to my imagination, the only thing that’s worse than a rude and obnoxious kid, is a PUBESCENT, boy crazed, and attention seeking girl.

The informational VHS tapes about puberty, self-esteem, abstinence and the drug-free lifestyle seemed to cover all the bases. I felt prepared to confidently face life’s many challenges and responsibilities when it came to other women. Quite frankly, that’s not how transactional the world and human interactions operate.

All this over a man, what are the perks?

Owning your autonomy and embracing your girlhood instead of submitting to the advances and attention of the opposite sex has always seemed to create a demarcation between women and girls. As the quest to create our femininity and what it will look like begins, so does the indoctrination of the Stepford Wife.Male centric women garnish revenue in male dominated niches like colorism, fat-shaming, and sexual exploitation. Things aren’t as simple as a school fight that got you a bit of respect and a few days home from school. Now it’s an episode of “For my Man” with a jail sentence.

We’ve reached the point of no return, and I fear we may need a new batch of women as well. Unfortunately, women have placed an irresponsible level of equity in the perspective of men. As women continue to assemble themselves with ideals that leave them vulnerable, it’s a wonder how much they are willing to compromise for companionship or fleeting validation. You’re not going crazy if you’re struggling to make new friends. There’s pee in the sisterhood pool.

A male centric woman is evil and a greater threat to women as their visibility increases. The visceral hate a woman can harbor and demonstrate towards another has grown more scarier over the years. We’re only enemies because men exist. We only care about our desirability, our sexual history (“body count”), our intelligence level, our nail polish color because somehow men have infiltrated the process of womanhood. Women may not hate each other, but it’s hard to tell. Femininity being postured as a weakness and a lesser form of expression allows pink pill creators to weaponize their meek sense of self. The man bill is a death sentence to more than just the subscriber. She’ll spare no expense to do what is unthinkably unnecessary without remorse or accountability.

The villain era was not code for the ‘clean up woman’ persona. The price of groceries is already expensive, and they are out here adding male gaze to the cart like the penny wasn’t discontinued. The covenant of womanhood doesn’t mean a thing to if you’re more concerned about the welfare of a group of people that only respects your subservience than the number of men overtly justifying pedophilia. It’s never the actions of pick me’s that are bothersome, it’s the commitment to chaos and the destruction of their core community that is astounding. Instead of getting a hug and 45-minute conversation on someone’s couch, the entire internet needs to listen to a long-winded rant on how men will never take women seriously. Some of us just won’t get it. All women don’t deserve community from all women. Male centric women are a willful cancer with no shame and every intention to utilize their audacity at our expense.